Chinese parents on dating
A contestant from the first episode was rejected for holding a master’s degree, deemed too high when compared to her potential boyfriend’s level of education, while in the second episode one woman worries in the side room that a male contestant won’t have a higher degree than her, a fear not echoed by any male contestant.Many people love to marry someone more intelligent, more accomplished than themselves, but exceptions abound in China. One female contestant on the first episode was passed over by a set of parents for being 40-years-old and divorced.Combined with parents’ claims of how well female contestants would be taken care of, or of the houses offered to male contestants if they would marry and move to the family’s city, the show at times seemed to be facilitating a business transaction.
The show’s gimmick puts the burden of choosing a partner not on potential suitors, but on their parents.The show has already received no small amount of negative feedback online, accused of being a “step backwards for Chinese society," with some netizens saying it amounts to arranged marriage with new packaging.However, as China continues its modernization and old often gives way to new, the show’s apparent support for a more conservative, traditional take on dating gives us some insight into parts of Chinese society that the average expat might not encounter.Here’s a couple things you can learn from the show, although these obviously might not reflect on your experiences dating in China. It's a Numbers Game As with many countries, double standards exist with regards to men and women in China, which results in certain contestants receiving unfair treatment.Part of this stems from the still present notion of , or 剩女.READ: Getting the Last Laugh on Graft With 'The Name of the People' While wagering one’s relationship prospects entirely on chance might seem unusual, the show has a fairly high success rate.Parental approval makes a great relationship all the better, and the particular brand of matchmaking offered by continues to air every Saturday night on Dragon Television (Beijing time), and anyone hoping to date in China would do well to watch the show, at least to learn what to expect from their potential partner’s parents., putting people who otherwise might not meet in the same room to test whether or not they’re fated to be.If not, no harm done, if so, then another happy union has been created.Despite his nontraditional family, it seems Zhang still has a lot of traditional love and respect for his mother. Sometimes You Just Cast Your Fate to the Wind According to one of the show’s producers, Liu Yuan, its two objectives are to explore intergenerational communication via its contestants and their parents, and to bring together couples already fated for each other (indicating 缘分, roughly translates into English as the fate that brings two things together (usually people, but not always, and not always romantically).The term covers a whole range of occurrences, from getting a job in the same city you traveled to a long time ago and loved, to bumping into a middle school classmate twenty years on, to finding your true love.